Reassurance, Consolation, Retreat
A comfort blanket understands. Sometimes our powers of reason and adult competence are not enough. There are obstacles that are too difficult, hurts that are too deep. We crumple. It’s not good ideas or clever advice we need at that point, it’s warmth, being held, the feeling of being able to hide. We need to retreat. It’s not the end. It’s a pause before a recovery.
We are generous to babies and small children when they are in crisis. We accept that they might be deeply upset simply because they are tired or have had too much excitement. They need to be quiet for a while. They need to be held and soothed.